Parris Island, 1985 USMC Boot Camp is where I learned to clean up after myself, do laundry, sew and iron. Habits are instilled in us and ever since, I do my share in the 21 years of marriage and never, ever consider it to be helping. Nope, I am pulling my weight as my wife pulls hers. Guess what? Weight is lighter when you pull it together. Now, I am not saying every incel should join the Marines but what I am saying is that a huge part of the problem is a severe lack of self-discipline. How do you teach that to young dudes? Frankly, I am not sure. Maybe we should stop worrying about teaching them to be men and instead focus on helping them be human. And being from Jersey, I am fully in agreement with you that J.P. is a douchebag. Love, peace and bacon grease from Kyiv, Ukraine.